How to NOT be a People Pleaser
People pleasing is a tendency you desperately want to shake but don't know how? This one is for you, friend.
People pleasers grew up in an environment where they learned to fear rocking the boat in any capacity. In this environment, there were strong consequences for speaking up, so you learned it's better to keep the peace. Always keeping the peace causes long-term stress of bottling up emotions. This bottling up of emotions can turn around later in life as an adult and bite you in the a$$.
- When was the last time you felt let down? Feel free to list a few situations. Get specific!
- What were some situations where you felt afraid of being rejected, neglected, abused, told you were crazy or wrong, or any time you felt like you had to appease someone else to feel safe?
- Can you identify moments in which you reject yourself? People pleasers often reject their beliefs, desires, and values. Creating awareness around how you reject yourself is a powerful tool. We all want to be loved and accepted. When did you abandon your own values to feel a sense of belonging
- Last one… Write down a list of your core values. Then re-write the above situations as the version of yourself who embodies those values. How would that version of yourself handle those situations? Re-write these parts of your story.