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Be a Lover, Not a Mother
The #1 program for women who want to feel supported, claimed, and led by a masculine man — without losing their power.
I’m So Ready to Be ClaimedBUY NOW!WAITLIST, PLEASE!AWAKEN YOUR SENSUAL SIDE, UNLOCK YOUR FULL FEMININE POWER
It’s time to stop saying “Where are all the good men?” and actually learn how to inspire their masculine leadership.
Because if you’re being honest…
- You crave a man who makes the decisions, plans the dates, and makes you feel safe to finally let go.
- You’re exhausted from always holding it together, doing it all, and feeling like you’re leading the relationship.
- You’re stuck in resentment, feeling like you have to ask him 3 times just to take the rubbish out — and even then, he forgets.
Here’s the truth:
He wants to lead. But your energy isn’t letting him.
This program is about rewiring your relationship dynamic so he naturally rises into his masculine — and you get to soften into your feminine.
Because the more you mother him, manage him, or micro-manage the relationship… the less he steps up.
And I don’t want that for you.
You’re craving…
- A man who takes initiative — from planning date nights to booking flights.
- A relationship where you can trust his leadership, instead of double-checking everything.
- To stop feeling bitter and angry about “doing it all.”
- To inspire men instead of resenting them.
Be a Lover, Not a Mother is for the woman who’s ready to be the muse, not the manager.
Because feminine power doesn’t come from control — it comes from your ability to receive.
To manifest the life of your dreams
Emasculate
adjective
(OF A MAN) DEPRIVED OF HIS MALE ROLE OR IDENTITY.
“INSECURE, EMASCULATED MEN”
MADE WEAKER OR LESS EFFECTIVE.
“AN EMASCULATED ORGANIZATION THAT IS MERELY A SHADOW OF ITS FORMER SELF”
The more you understand the masculine, the easier it becomes to trust him, let him lead, and feel safe surrendering into your softness.
It’s exhausting craving his leadership and constantly feeling like he’s just not getting it.
You want that “I’ve got you” kind of energy.
The “I’ll take care of it” texts.
The “Dinner’s booked. Be ready at 8” moments that make your body melt."
But instead? You’re micromanaging, making the plans, holding the emotional weight — and quietly wondering, Why doesn’t he just show up like a man?
Here’s the real issue:
We’ve been conditioned to shame men out of their masculine.We’re told that their strength is dangerous. That their leadership is oppressive.
That control is the only way to stay safe.
But all that’s done is push good men into a corner — and left women exhausted, resentful, and aching for the very thing they’ve been told not to want.
Polarity can’t thrive when he feels like he’s walking on eggshells.The truth is… he wants to lead you. He wants to provide, to pursue, to protect.
But he needs to feel there’s space for him to do that.
Let this be your invitation to stop fighting your desire for leadership — and instead, learn how to inspire it.
Because when you soften into your feminine, he rises.
And suddenly… it all feels so easy.
You keep asking, “Where are all the good men?”
But the truth is — they’re still here.
They’ve just stopped trying … because no one is letting them lead.
Years of being told they’re “too much,” “toxic,” or “controlling” has made them retreat.
Not because they’re weak — but because they’re tired of feeling wrong for showing up in their natural masculine energy.
They’ve been met by women who don’t know how to receive. Who are stuck in their own trauma, afraid of letting go, and subconsciously threatened by real masculine power.
Masculine men want to lead. They just need to feel trusted, respected, and wanted in that role.
And as women, we need to remember how to make space for that leadership — without losing our voice, power, or standards.
This isn’t about being passive. It’s about being powerful enough to receive — and wise enough to support his rise, not compete with it.
This is what Be a Lover, Not a Mother was made for.
If you’re ready to stop being his manager and start being his muse… this is your blueprint.
I created Be a Lover, Not a Mother for the woman who wants to be the muse, not the manager. The one who’s ready to stop being “his rock”… and start being the soft place he wants to run home to.
We’re living in a time where men are afraid to lead — and women are afraid to let them.
Relationships feel complicated, but polarity isn’t.
This program is for you whether you’re single, dating, or deep into partnership.If you’re ready to stop doing it all and start being deeply supported… this is it.
If you’re nodding to any of these… you’re in the right place:
- You ask your boyfriend to plan dates and his response is “I don’t know, whatever you want babe.”
- Your husband gives you one-word answers when you ask how his day was (because he doesn’t feel safe to open up anymore).
- You’re constantly nagging about the little things, even though you hate it.
- You’re exhausted from carrying the mental load and wondering when he’ll finally step up.
- You’re constantly nagging about the little things, even though you hate it.
- You find it easier to complain about him than celebrate him.
- You’ve started taking everything personally — from the rubbish to the toilet seat.
- You’re sick of men who don’t initiate, don’t lead, and don’t even try.
By being in this program, you’re part of the movement — where we stop blaming men and start inspiring them.
Where we stop managing and start receiving.
Where we shift from resentment into ravishment.
Join Be a Lover, Not a Mother now.
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This Program Will Help You:
🌹 Understand the difference between leading and loving
🌹 Stop emasculating your man (without even realizing it)
🌹 Rebuild polarity, so your relationship feels HOT again
🌹 Communicate what you need — without nagging
🌹 Learn to trust him — and yourself
Gentlemen… think of this 7-week journey as the men’s version of Queen Alchemy.
Imagine what it would be like to say thanks to a man for holding open the door and feeling looked after in that moment (and not creating a story in your head about ‘oh, he just wants to get into my pants’).
Imagine feeling good about going to a man when you need help instead of trying to do everything yourself.
Imagine walking in the door after a long day and seeing that your man has cooked you dinner and tidied the house (and don’t think, “Oh, that would never happen”).
Imagine being a rock for your man when he’s having a rough day and knowing he’s not internalizing his mental health struggles.
Imagine just being able to say ‘thanks’ and receiving a beautiful date night when he pays the bill.
5 reprogramming tracks to train your mind and body to be THE MAN.
Once you start support men in feeling empowered and open to being themselves, everything changes. The flow-on effect of this shift is fucking amazing. You will be able to support your son (or future son) in being an amazing man, heal generational wounds around the masculine, and create an unshakeable bond with your partner.
This is a movement.
Let’s release our anger towards men and instead start loving them.
Let’s see the goodness in their hearts and return the favor.
Let’s realize that the masculine is truly the most nourishing energy to the feminine.
WHAT'S INCLUDED
Over 8 hours of content
A Telegram group to share your wins, questions, etc
Access to any new modules that are added to the BLNM program.
Content Included
Module 1
Connecting with your womb and being grounded in your feminine heart
Understanding Feminine and Masculine
What is emasculation?
The sneaky way in which we emasculate
The female version of emasculation
Why we do it and how it has been ingrained into us
Module 2
Recognizing ways in which you emasculate men.
The attractiveness of the feminine, for the masculine, and embracing this!
How to stop emasculating
Getting into receivership
Opening your heart
Module 3
How to swap emasculating comments into empowering ones
What men want you to know
Is there ever a time when emasculation is appropriate?
Trusting him when he needs to go into his man cave
Module 4
How to communicate with your lover when you want something
How to communicate with your man (or man friend) when they are not stepping up and you need/want them to
How to play with polarity and get comfortable surrendering to his leadership
Being a lover and not a mother
Module 5 (New Updated version LIVE May 22nd with Hal, my Husband)
In this exclusive live bonus session, Hal and I are unpacking the raw truth behind polarity, leadership, and what really creates safety between a man and a woman. It's the closest thing to witnessing our relationship behind closed doors — and trust me, it’s going to change how you see men forever.
Module 6
The differences between men and women
How we date and communicate our primal and soul needs
A juicy Q+A
Join Hal & Monica LIVE for a brand-new module:
What Men Actually Need to Lead You
- This is the one you’ve been waiting for.
A “regular guy,” no-BS, raw and real live convo between Monica + her husband Hal… and in this never-before-seen live bonus module, they’re pulling back the curtain on:
💥 What’s *really* happening when a man won’t lead you
💥 How women unknowingly emasculate men (even when they “mean well”)
💥 The subtle control patterns that make him feel like he can’t win
💥 How Monica shifted from masculine overdrive into feminine surrender—without losing her power
💥 What Hal *actually needed* to feel safe enough to lead
💥 How to bring up emotional topics *without making him feel like he’s in trouble*
💥 Why most women’s “help” feels like pressure—and how to shift it into invitation
💥 What the masculine craves from the feminine (and how Monica embodies it IRL)
This is *not* a script.This is a real married couple showing you what feminine-masculine polarity actually looks like behind closed doors.
This will blow your mind (and melt your walls). It's polarity activation you can feel.
DATE: Thursday, May 22nd, 2025
TIME: 3:30pm NYC | 8:30pm London | 5:30am Sydney [Fri 5/23]
BENEFITS OF JOINING BEFORE MARCH 1:
//Getting everything at the current price (price increase happening March 1)
// Being able to get customized advice in the new modules to suit your exact situation
PAYMENT PLAN
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*NEW* live module 5 with my husband, Hal! (Join before May 22 to get live access)
- **LIVE with Hal + Monica: What Men *Actually* Need to Lead You**Thursday, May 22nd, at 3:30pm NYC | 8:30pm London | 5:30am Sydney [Fri 5/23]
For the first time ever, Hal is joining me LIVE for an exclusive module where we’ll walk you through the exact dynamics that make polarity thrive in our relationship.
This isn’t just theory — it’s raw, embodied wisdom straight from the source. This is the kind of support most women never get access to… and it's only available if you join before May 22.
Inside the LIVE Module with Hal, we’ll be diving into:
🌶️ The subtle things women do that block men from leading (and don’t even realize)
🌶️ What makes a man want to step up, claim you, and take the reins — from an actual man’s POV
🌶️ How we navigate leadership and surrender in our own marriage — the playful and the practical
🌶️ What to do when you feel like “he just doesn’t get it”
🌶️ Real-time masculine and feminine dynamics (this is next-level polarity training)
and so much more...
BENEFITS OF JOINING BEFORE MARCH 1:
//Getting everything at the current price (price increase happening March 1)
// Being able to get customized advice in the new modules to suit your exact situation
PRICING & INCLUSIONS
Payment Plan
4 MONTHLY PAYMENTS
8 hours of pre-recorded video lessons
A Telegram group to share your wins, questions, and get direct feedback from me
Instant & lifetime access to go through the program at your own pace
Private Podcast option for easy, on-the-go listening
Complimentary access to any new modules or updates that may be added to the BLNM program
4 Payments of $399One Payment
Best Value!
8 hours of pre-recorded video lessons
A Telegram group to share your wins, questions, and get direct feedback from me
Instant & lifetime access to go through the program at your own pace
Private Podcast option for easy, on-the-go listening
Complimentary access to any new modules or updates that may be added to the BLNM program
1 Payment of PRICING & INCLUSIONS
8 hours of pre-recorded video lessons
A Telegram group to share your wins, questions, and get direct feedback from me
Instant & lifetime access to go through the program at your own pace
Complimentary access to any new modules or updates that may be added to the BLNM program
ONE PAYMENT OF $14974 PAYMENTS OF $399
