ABOUT

Now I could give you some long ass spiel about my life – but I want to keep things short, sweet and to the point.

I didn't always live this life. It's been a journey that started the year after I finished school (2015). I grew up in what would be seen as an 'idyllic' childhood/family. My parents were still together (still are), there was always food on the table, and I went to good schools. So naturally, I thought I didn't have any trauma.

I didn't realize that getting into bad situations with boys, binge drinking, and hating my body wasn't normal. It was how I felt validated by men, which later made me hate men.

This is an important part of my journey as my hate towards the masculine showed up in my hustling, burnout, horrendously painful and heavy periods, missing periods, and toxic relationships. But I never thought to look at it because I didn't have any MASSIVE traumas (or so I thought).

My period went missing after coming off The Pill back in 2015, and I first thought it was the greatest thing. I had a terrible relationship with my period, and I truly thought it was the worst thing in the world. However, after not having a period for months, my body started shutting down, and I became pre-menopausal with my hormone levels.

 Fast forward, and my new boyfriend, whom I met after diving head first into understanding my cycle, got my period back. Yes, I said that.

I couldn't believe that after trying all the herbs for MONTHS, I got my period back after dating him for like 4 weeks. So I became obsessed with looking beyond just the surface of food and supplements for healing your period and found the world of femininity/masculinity. Changing my diet and supplements got rid of my heavy periods and pain, but it wasn't bringing my period back after the pill... so I knew I had to look deeper.

My shitty relationship with my femininity meant that I shunned the most feminine part of myself and became a cold, masculine woman because I thought that's what cool and successful women do. But my boyfriend at the time woke me up to the fact that a masculine woman does not turn on a masculine man.

FAST FORWARD A LITTLE BIT AND….

This opened up my whole world.

My terrible relationship with men got me into all kinds of crappy situations that made me hate my femininity and subconsciously act like a man. I did everything to try and be validated by men because I just wanted my dad's validation.

Finally, I worked on myself after my business wasn't taking off in early 2018. I found somatic healing, and even though I thought, "I didn't need it," I was in for the biggest surprise of my life. I came home to myself. For the first time, I could soften in front of a man and no longer play 'cool.' I could be warm and inviting. I could actually let my armor down. I became obsessed with understanding trauma, feminine and masculine energy, manifestation, and anything related to energy, personal development, mindset, trauma, and the body.

After starting this work on myself, my life coaching business took off in late 2018 and I was taking my educational Instagram Lives about periods off instagram and into 1:1s. My business started gaining momentum and I was helping women heal their cycles and reprogram their subconscious mind. As I started having 1:1 sessions,  this 'weird' thing would start happening where I would start guiding a client through a modality that I hadn't learnt anywhere...the words were just coming out of my mouth. 

And the results people were having were blowing my mind. My clients couldn't believe our sessions. They couldn't understand how 1 session with me fixed something they've been working on for 5+ years. So, in late 2018, I started re-watching my client sessions and writing down exactly what I was saying. I kept using these modalities and channeling more in my sessions, and as a result, I have a whole library of "Monica Modalities" that I use daily with my clients both in person and online.