Pregnancy Q&A Part 2 - Birth Plan, Must-Read Books, and Redefining Motherhood

You ladies LOVED the first pregnancy Q&A blog (will link it here for you!!), so let’s go round two, shall we? In this edition of your juiciest questions, we're talking spirit babies, why I’m hiring all the help (with zero shame), my birth intentions, and why I’m not here to martyr myself through motherhood... let's dive in!

(P.S. Want the full vibe? Tune into the podcast episode for the raw, voice-note version of this convo—it just hits different. Click here to listen.)

Q: So... are you excited for birth?

A: Oh my God—YES. I'm seriously so excited to experience birth. It'll be such a privilege, honestly. I get emotional just thinking about it!

As far as the birth PLAN goes, we're keeping it sacred and close (not because I don’t trust you, but because I don’t want anyone’s well-meaning-but-totally-unhelpful opinions infiltrating my energy field—listen to a podcast episode I did on this topic HERE). But what I will say is that the gist of my plan is: a really primal, natural birth, e.g., we're not doing an induction or anything like that. Fully trusting my body and the raw power of nature doing her thing. I actually can't wait!!

Q: What are you reading to prepare for birth and motherhood?

A: I’m intentionally not devouring every book on the shelf. Because the fastest way to kill your intuition is to drown it in someone else’s strategy. I read. I listen. I take what lands. The rest? Out the window. I'm listening to a LOT of birth stories from other women, too.

Here’s what I'm reading to feel prepared, whilst being mindful NOT to overthink:

• "Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth" by Ina May Gaskin
  
• "Real Food for Fertility: Prepare Your Body for Pregnancy with Preconception Nutrition and Fertility Awareness" by Lily Nichols and Lisa Hendrickson-Jack
  
• "Awakening Fertility: The Essential Art of Preparing for Pregnancy" by Heng Ou
  
• "Nine Golden Months: The Essential Art of Nourishing the Mother-to-Be" by Heng Ou
  
• "The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother" by Heng Ou
  
• "The Mama Natural Week-by-Week Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth" by Genevieve Howland

I've also taken this Pain Free Birth Course, and got the partner course for Hal as well.

Q: Do you believe that spirit baby communication is really a thing, and did you experience it?

A: Oh for sure, I talked to my baby before he was even here.

I’ve been chatting with this little spirit since late December 2023/January 2024. He gave me little nudges about what Hal and I needed to know, do, or shift so we could be open vessels for him to come in. We’ve been talking for several months—sometimes it’s full convos, sometimes just a knowing. And yes, he’s already a bit sassy. I mean... of course he is. 

I even knew the exact moment we conceived on our honeymoon. I don't even know how to describe it, but it was like I felt his energy fly across the room. Not subtle. Not chill. Definitely my child. ;)

Q: What made you decide to hire all the help—even before baby arrives?

A: Here’s the thing: I’m not trying to win the “most burnt-out mom” badge. I’m not here to “do it all.” That’s the lie we’ve been sold, and I’m not buying it.

So yes, I’ve hired the damn village:

• Midwives (actual doctors, FYI)

• Birth + postpartum doulas
  

• Night nurse (hello, sleep)

• Lactation consultant

• In-home nanny once I return to work

• Housekeeper and cleaner

Asking for help doesn’t make you weak. It makes you wise. It makes you magnetic. It keeps your nervous system intact so you’re not losing your sh*t over the little things.

I want my son to see a mother who receives. Who leads with softness. Who brings in support without apology. That’s the kind of woman I want to raise him to respect.

Q: What if I don’t know if I want kids?

A: Let me lovingly call your bluff. Most women who say I don’t know actually do want kids—but they’re:

• Afraid of not finding the right man
• Afraid of losing themselves
• Afraid it’ll be too hard, too messy, too much

And listen—that fear makes sense. We’ve been shown the worst-case version of motherhood through the media and especially Instagram reels: greasy hair, trashed houses, women who’ve disappeared into diapers and resentment. Not sexy.

But that doesn’t have to be your reality. Everything is a choice. You can decide to have the motherhood you want. You can literally create your own version of motherhood.

You can want the baby and the business. The sexy marriage and the sleepy cuddles. The turn-on, the travel, the purpose, and the playroom. You get to define motherhood on your terms.

So if you’re on the fence, ask yourself: “If I had the right man, the right support, and full permission to do motherhood my way—would I want a baby?”

If the answer is yes... well, there you go. You don’t have to pick.

Let’s kill the lie that says you need to choose between freedom and family. The feminine doesn’t sacrifice her soul to be a mom. She expands.

This is your permission slip to stop shrinking your dreams, start asking for help, and let yourself want it all. Because you can. And you’re allowed to enjoy the hell out of it.

By the time you’re reading this, there’s a good chance our little man has already arrived earthside—and I’ll be soaking up newborn snuggles whilst on maternity leave. Thank you for being here, for cheering me on, and for holding this sacred season with so much love. I can’t wait to share more when the time feels right. 💛