Pregnancy Q&A - How I'm Energetically Preparing for Birth & Beyond

It's HERE - the long-awaited Q&A on all things pregnancy!! The amount of questions you guys asked was insane so we're breaking this blog up into a few parts so your brain doesn't melt. This part is all about preparation: how I prepared my business, how I prepared my nervous system, how I'm approaching parenting, and MORE. 

Make sure you keep an eye out for part two, which is coming to you soon!

(Psstt... don't want to wait? You can listen to the podcast version to get your quick fix with ALL the answers. Click here to listen!) 

Q: How are you energetically preparing for labor and birth?

A: Okay, so first off, what is energetic preparation? Basically, it’s about getting your nervous system to feel safe holding what you want before it actually happens. I talk about this a lot when it comes to manifestation. People are like, “Why isn’t this thing happening for me?” And when I dig in, they don’t actually feel safe enough to have it—so of course, it’s not going to happen.

So when I say I prepared energetically for pregnancy, I don’t just mean for pregnancy itself—I mean for motherhood as a whole. I wanted to get myself ready for having screaming toddlers running around and trying to juggle a million things at once. The whole point is training my nervous system now so that when I’m in it—pregnancy, postpartum, motherhood—I’m not subconsciously blocking myself or feeling completely overwhelmed.

One of the biggest things I see blocking women from getting pregnant? This deep fear that they’re going to lose too much. I’ve been having so many conversations with clients about expanding their idea of motherhood—making it something that works for them instead of just accepting what society tells us it has to be.

Because let’s be real, we’ve all been fed this narrative that motherhood is just loss after loss. Like, “Goodbye sex life, goodbye freedom, goodbye body, goodbye everything fun.” But you know what? That’s not the case everywhere. In the U.S. and Australia, this mindset is so heavy. But in other cultures, they don’t see motherhood that way at all.

There’s actually a book I’ve been recommending to all my clients called Bringing Up Bébé. It’s written by an American journalist who lived in Paris and raised her kids there. It breaks down the differences between French and American parenting, and honestly, it’s such an expander. It makes you realize that the way you see motherhood is probably just based on what you’ve seen around you. And that’s everything in life, right? Sometimes we need to see someone doing it differently to realize we can do it differently, too.

And I really hope I can be that expander for a lot of you. I’ve had so many women tell me that watching me run my business while pregnant has made them realize, “Oh, I can still do this.” And yeah, mindset is huge. I’ve had a really easy pregnancy, and I know a big part of that is the energetic work I did beforehand and the way I’ve consciously shaped my mindset around it.

But here’s the thing—there’s also a balance. I don’t subscribe to the “pregnancy is debilitating” mindset, but I also don’t push myself just because I can. Like, I could be going full force with my book launch, but do I want to? No. I want to honor where I’m at. And it makes me wonder—how many pregnancy or birth complications happen because women are just pushing themselves too hard?

Yes, you can do everything pregnant—but do you want to? That’s been the biggest lesson for me. Pregnancy has been this beautiful permission slip to do less, and I hope more women give themselves that same permission, too.

Q: How did you prepare your life for conception and pregnancy?

A: Alright, let’s get into it—how did I actually prepare? And just a heads-up, I did an entire episode on the energetic and spiritual reasons for infertility and conception struggles, so we’ll link that below if you want to dive deeper into that side of things.

So, in terms of how I prepared, we actually started preparing my business about two years before conceiving. I’ve always been really big on speaking out what I want—when it feels right. I think there’s value in keeping some things to yourself so you don’t invite in people’s unsolicited opinions. But with my team, I was super open. I told them, “This is what we want. I want to get pregnant around this time.” And just claiming that, without any shame, was a big part of it.

I know for some women, there can be this weird shame around wanting to be a mom, like it makes them seem weak or pathetic. But it’s not pathetic to want something so deeply. I really owned my desire, and then we made intentional moves to prepare my business for that next phase of life.

That meant a lot of backend restructuring—things like shifting how I showed up in my business, incorporating more masterclasses so I wasn’t constantly feeling pressure to be on Instagram giving away a million nuggets during launches. We streamlined the product suite, especially with my book coming out, and actually closed The Feminine CEO for now. Olivia had a great idea to possibly bring some of that content back as a masterclass, so if you’re interested, you can get on the waitlist HERE. 

Beyond business, there were other little energetic things. And this might sound random, but one of them was handling noise. Like, when my dogs would bark non-stop and the house felt chaotic, I’d practice my nervous system expansion technique (if you’ve done Queen Alchemy or The Immersion, you know what I’m talking about). So much of my energetic prep was about nervous system work—training myself to hold it all without my body slipping into a stress response.

A lot of people think nervous system regulation is just about reducing stress—cutting things out of your life. But I actually think what’s more powerful and realistic is training your nervous system to be able to handle everything without it overwhelming you. So, I’d practice this in small ways, like when I was cooking dinner, visualizing different scenarios, or when a curveball would get thrown my way in business. Instead of getting frustrated, I’d lean into it, because let’s be real—how many curveballs are my kids going to throw at me? If I can’t roll with them now, it’s going to feel ten times harder when I’m in the thick of it, dealing with my own emotions and little humans’ emotions.

I really believe there are so many opportunities to energetically prepare for motherhood before you’re in it. Everyone’s life looks different, but hopefully, what I’ve shared gives you some ideas on how you can start preparing in your own way.

Q: Okay, have you done anything to prep the dogs?

A: We have FOUR (yes four!) dogs, so welcome to the zoo! Honestly, I’m really not worried. We’ve already been setting boundaries with them for years, and they’re so well-trained. If I’m patting Jelly and Ma’am (our big pit bull) tries to get jealous, Hal or I will correct her so she doesn’t think jealousy gets her attention. They’ve learned to share love, and they love kids. I actually think Ma’am won’t leave the nursery—she’s so protective. Jelly even licks my belly! So yeah, I feel really good about it.

Q: What's your planned parenting style?

A: Okay, so I'll probably have a lot more wisdom to share when I'm actually deep in it, but here’s what I will say. The more I’ve studied human psychology and nervous systems, the more I’ve realized that boundaries are everything—especially for children. And to me, this isn’t just a belief; this is factual. Kids need structure. They need to be told no. They need direction. It’s what makes them feel safe.

Honestly, I think the extreme gentle parenting trend that so many people are pressuring themselves to follow is actually harmful. It gives kids no boundaries, no sense of right and wrong, and ultimately doesn’t make their nervous systems feel secure. I truly believe it’s a massive disservice to a child when parents act like the kid knows what’s best for them. A two-year-old has no clue what’s best for them. That’s not how development works.

And before anyone takes this the wrong way—this is not about turning your kid into a mini version of you. It’s about instilling fundamental values, like politeness, respect, and discipline. If my kid refuses to eat dinner because they “don’t like broccoli,” I’m not making them a separate meal. That just teaches them they can always get their way and never develop their palate. Not happening.

I always think about the future version of myself and what she would be proud of. I apply the same logic to parenting. Who do I want my child to be as an adult? Okay, then what do I need to instill in them now? And no, this doesn’t mean I plan on yelling or being overly harsh. Will I have human moments where I snap? Of course, because I’m human. But the plan is firm boundaries and making it clear that I’m the parent, and they don’t always get to call the shots.

One thing I’ve also thought a lot about is that, when possible, mothers should be the primary disciplinarians for daughters, and fathers (or strong male figures like an uncle or older brother) should discipline sons. There’s a psychological reason for this, which I explain in THIS podcast episode. But for now, that’s the plan: my husband will handle more of the discipline with our son, and I’ll do so with our daughter if we have one. Obviously, things can change, but that’s the current approach!

Okay, that is all for this section of the Q&A but, like I said, there's soooo much more coming! I feel like we've barely scratched the surface. See you in the next one!