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Masculinity Isn't Toxic...

Masculinity Isn't Toxic...

Masculinity isn't toxic, but behavior can be ⁠ ⁠ Let that sink in. ⁠ ⁠ People throwing around 'toxic masculinity' need to realise that there is a HEAVY connotation in that, that masculinity is toxic.⁠ ⁠ Even if you don't mean it...the meaning is there. ⁠ ⁠ And some people say masculinity is toxic. It's not toxic. ⁠ ⁠ Unhealthy behaviors can be thought ...and this behavior can come from men OR women. IT has nothing to do with masculinity and we need to stop putting these two words side by side⁠ ⁠ ⁠ Why? ... because all it's doing is creating an idea, that men that are embodied in their biology, are bad. That their leadership, pursual, discernment, purpose, protectiveness, strength, courage, independence, and assertiveness is toxic. When it's not toxic (most of the time), it's just that the media has made us believe that if a man puts his foot down, that he's being toxic. ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ Behaviors that are toxic are: ⁠ - gaslighting (which is when you essentially dismiss someone's experience or feelings) ⁠ - cannot apologize or see the other persons point of view⁠ - Being aggressive and projecting anger towards someone ⁠ - Calling someone named because of something they are choosing to do - Belittling someone (and so many more) ⁠ A man that has boundaries, integrity, protects you, is chivalrous, works hard, wants to provide for you, doesn't tolerate shit behavior, and leads you and the relationship is not toxic. That is the masculine.⁠ ⁠ And the feminine surrenders, receives, is soft, is in her body, loves connection, is tender, is magnetic. ⁠

⁠ We are different. That doesn't mean one is bad and the other is good. ⁠⁠ Men are not toxic.

Toxic people are toxic. ⁠

⁠ *disclaimer, don't @ me for being too general. yes, it is general. I have a word limit on a effing Instagram caption ⁠ ⁠ If you need to heal your shit with men and understand them, Be a Lover Not a Mother opens in November and you can join the 2022 round of Queen Alchemy for the deeper somatic healing for any shit you hold towards men x (feel free to message me any Q’s)