What TRUE Feminine Embodiment Looks Like

I was on a podcast interview recently where I was asked the question, "What is feminine energy and masculine energy?" 

Instead of answering with a generic list of traits that are technically feminine or masculine, I went into the really important understanding that feminine energy is not just about putting yourself into another box and ticking off a list of things that you need to "do." Instead, feminine energy is really about you living in the most aligned and authentic expression of yourself and feeling at home in your body.

As modern women, we need to recognize that we can't just be floating around like a fairy all day. Most of us are not living lives that would allow that to be the case. In our day-to-day reality, we're often having to make decisions, lead teams, cook dinner after a long day's work, etc.

So, how can we "be in our feminine" and still keep up with modern life?

I wanted to share some small examples of ways that you are truly embodying your feminine that might not fit into that typical box of "feminine energy activities" (i.e. dancing, baking, being in receivership, having baths, listening to music, going with the flow).

Let's start with traits that are not you TRULY in your feminine embodiment:

• Struggling to make decisions because you don't trust your intuition and/or not living in alignment.
• Not speaking up/owning your "no"/drawing boundaries because of fear of rejection.
• Feeling guilty for looking after yourself and prioritizing any form of self-care – could be as simple as eating lunch in silence rather than whilst at your computer.
• Suppressing your emotions because you do not want conflict to arise.
• Apologizing excessively and/or over-explaining/over-talking, which all indicate a lack of confidence and self-trust.
• Being overly thankful (basically thanking somebody to the point of annoyance) - not saying don't be grateful; what I'm saying is learn to receive. You need to be able to say thank you with genuine intention and know the other person has heard it, choose to receive the kind act they've done for you, and then move on.
• Seeking external validation.

On the contrary, here are traits that are actually you being in your TRUE embodied feminine (including welcoming your sassy/dark/don't-f*ck-with-me side):

• Prioritizing self-care because you want to show up as a high-value woman.
• Maintaining healthy boundaries – that means following through with them when someone dishonours them.
• Nurturing relationships, while simultaneously ensuring that you do not sacrifice yourself to the point of losing yourself
• Feeling safe to be vulnerable and speak your truth.
• Trusting your intuition and using that to help make quick, powerful decisions.
• Practicing self-compassion instead of always being hard on yourself.

Can you see and feel the difference here? The reason I wanted to lay this out in layman's terms with easy-to-understand examples is because, often, people can be misguided by what feminine energy actually is. They think that they need to just go with the flow, and they misinterpret that as not speaking up. They think they need to be soft and warm, and then they lose themselves in their relationships.

There is no one flavour of the feminine. And the sooner that you can understand that being "in your feminine" is NOT about you putting yourself into a box of strict guidelines, the better. It's sooo incredibly freeing when you let yourself explore ALL flavours of the feminine.

I know Instagram can sometimes make this feel confusing, so I wanted to go deeper on it with you here. I've been working with women for eight years now, and I've really been able to hone in on what true feminine embodiment looks like and all the ways we've been getting it wrong.

If you want to understand these flavours even better and start embodying true femininity TODAY, you need to check out The Blueprint to Feminine Embodiment, a free masterclass that will help you re-discover your feminine energy and understand where you’re getting in your own way.