How I Healed My Body, My Trauma, and My Life (And How You Can Too)

There’s a part of my story I don’t tell to impress you, I tell it to show you what’s possible. Because no matter how strong, successful, or self-reliant you look on the outside… if your body is screaming, your heart is aching, or your nervous system is hanging by a thread, then it’s not the mindset hack or self-help book you need next—it’s true, somatic, cellular-level healing.

 

For the last 8 years, I’ve been helping high-achieving women and men heal the trauma and patterns that traditional therapy, podcasts, and mindset work can’t touch, so they can finally create the love, health, fertility, success, and ease they deeply crave. They're the men and women who have "tried everything," and nothing has "stuck."

 

Whether it’s letting your man lead, conceiving your baby, feeling safe in your softness, or finally embodying the version of you that doesn’t need to think her way through life... this is where it begins.

My own healing journey didn’t start with a spiritual awakening. It started with hating being a woman.

 

I didn't wake up one morning and know I was meant to do this work. In fact, I grew up with deeply conflicted programming around what it meant to be a woman. On one hand, I hated being a woman and anything related to feminine energy. I thought it was weak, too emotional, needy, and chaotic. On the other hand, I was worried that "men only wanted one thing," and they shouldn't be trusted, are d*cks, and dangerous.

 

Deep down, I wanted to be a feminine woman who let her man lead. But I had this impossible tug-of-war in me. I craved for a man to protect me, whilst at the same time shaming myself for wanting it. I spent my time proving my worth by showing that I could do what men could do. I wore my burnout, coldness (I wasn't tapped into my emotions), and independence as a badge of honour.

 

And I thought this was "female empowerment." Yet I was exhausted, completely disconnected from my body, and secretly desperate to be held. I was terrified of my own softness and desires.

No matter how often my body would physically tell me signs that I had deep trauma to heal, I would ignore it until I was in a hospital bed, unable to move. I shoved my issues so far down and thought that because I went to a good school, my parents were together, and food was always on the table, that I didn't have "trauma."

 

If, like me, you’ve ever thought, “But my childhood was fine…” This podcast episode is the one that’ll crack something open for you. ↓

 

 

Growing up, I had such heavy and painful periods that I would have to wear a tampon and a maternity pad, and no one ever knew to tell me that maybe something was wrong beneath the surface. I had no self-respect, I treated my body like sh*t, and I truly was a "strong girl" that was broken under the facade I put out to the world. 

 

So like most of us do, I went on the pill to "solve" it, only to be put on the highest dose of the pill and still have breakthrough bleeds every two weeks. When I eventually came off the pill, I lost my period for 18 months.

 

I tried everything—every supplement, herb, food, etc.—to try to get my period back, but nothing worked. I lost weight so quickly without trying, eating like a horse, and my hormone levels dropped like flies. Once a year went by with still no period, I realized that there might be more going on than I'd like to admit. 

I started reading about feminine/masculine energy as I dove head over heels into trying to get my period back.

And sure enough, three months into dating a man who lived in his masculine, my period came back. I remember thinking, What if this wasn't just about food or supplements? What if my body is responding to the safety I feel in being led? I had spent so long resisting masculine energy, but the truth was, I craved it. I loved it when he took the lead, when I didn't have to hold it all. 

 

And yet, I carried so much shame for that desire, because I had internalised the belief that needing a man made me weak. This was when I started going deep into the research of how our trauma and the energy we hold in our bodies affect our hormones and physical health.

 

Our relationship wasn't healthy, though. It was up and down as I was constantly emasculating him and keeping him at arm's length, even though I deeply wanted to open my heart to him. One day, he actually called me a "cold b*tch," and this was my wake-up call to learning that men don't like emotionless women. This moment cracked something in my mind like "Wait, men don't want what I think they want?" This moment planted the seed for my deep obsession with understanding the difference between men and women.

Then, Christmas 2017, I had a terrible ski accident that put me in the hospital for 7 days, a 7.5 hour surgery, a wheelchair, and a long road ahead of me learning how to walk again. I was physically broken, emotionally raw, and left to face my deepest wounds alone. The physical pain was excruciating, but it was the emotional pain that gutted me. 

 

I couldn't be "Miss Independent" anymore because I couldn't feed, shower, or take myself to the bathroom. My boyfriend broke up with me, too, because during the depths of this depression that I was in, I wasn't giving him the attention he wanted. Sure, maybe I didn't communicate things clearly enough to him. But it also taught me the difference between a truly masculine man and a truly feminine woman. Not just a facade or a man who's masculine on the surface.

 

Even though that accident was horrific, it was also the best thing that could have happened. Because I had to face my demons that I'd shoved so far down, I didn't even know they were there. I realised I couldn't just be feminine in my mindset, but that I had to be in my body as well.

At this point, I lost my period for the second time. And I remember feeling like a total fraud.

How could I be helping other women get theirs back (as helping women with their cycles was my whole business at this point), whilst my own body had gone silent again? So, I told my followers, and then my period came back that very night. I knew at that moment that there was something deeply energetic about our cycles. 

 

So I went inward, not through mindset work, but through deep, somatic healing. 

Like I said before, I had told myself I didn't have trauma because I had a "good upbringing." Because nothing "big" had happened. But my body knew better. She was screaming at me. 

 

I had shoved my issues so far down that I didn't even know they were there. I had no idea of the abandonment wounds, daddy issues, sexual trauma, addiction to burnout, self-love, and respect issues that existed.

 

It wasn't that I had no trauma, it was that I just couldn't see it.

Now, for the last 8 years, I've made this healing my life's work. 

 

When my business took off in the middle of 2018, after doing a huge amount of somatic trauma work, my channel opened, and my intuition became extremely loud. I began hearing what to do, as if someone was whispering step-by-step instructions directly into my ears. I wasn't repeating something I learned in a textbook. I was remembering a way of working with the body and nervous system that I had never seen taught before. 

 

I was helping clients heal the trauma they had been working on for years, in just one session. I couldn't believe it, and neither could they.

 

So I started going back through my sessions, taking notes, documenting the processes I was using, and what emerged became my "Monica Modalities," which are life-changing. Now, over the years of seeing what really gets people results, I've developed my MYH Trauma Healing Method. 

I continue to be the woman people come to after they've "tried it all."

 

Women who have tried everything to get pregnant work with me, and BAM, they're pregnant. 

 

Clients who've been in therapy for over a decade, trying every modality (CBT, EMDR, Ketamine therapy, talk therapy, breathwork, meditation), get the results they've been searching for for 10 years. 

 

Women who've carried trauma that most people couldn't imagine finally feel free. Safe. Aligned. Not 10 years later... but often in a matter of months. 

 

And the best bit? My "snowball effect" means that after they've worked with me, things continue to get better. 

My H.E.R Framework™️ takes women through the deepest healing of their lives.

 

Heal the trauma stored in your nervous system.

Embody the new way of being, so it becomes your baseline.

Radiate as the version of you who lives in alignment, not just journals about it.

 

You're effortlessly living your life without having to think about deep breathing, mindset swaps, or nervous system rewiring. You just LIVE as the most aligned, regulated, and radiant version of yourself. 

Ten years since I first started doing this work, I'm living the life I used to dream of.

 

I'm married to the love of my life. And we've just welcomed our first child. 

 

What I call "Embodied Manifestation" has become something I live by, and I welcome each new season of life with so much excitement. 

 

And even though my business has grown in ways younger me would find hard to believe, it's not just about the status or the fact that I'm now a New York Times Bestselling Author, it's about the fulfillment I get from my work. 

In my business, I lead with integrity. Integrity is my number one value in life.

 

I will never touch what I haven't lived, integrated, and embodied. I don't sell ideals. I model reality. And that's why my clients get results... because I'm not giving them a script, or only selling one version of things. I'm able to make my work malleable to women and men of all backgrounds and in all seasons of life. There is no one-size-fits-all here at MYH. 

 

I was doing trauma healing and somatic work long before it became a coaching industry buzzword. And I've seen firsthand what happens when it's done poorly. I've had clients come to me after working with "trauma-informed" coaches who left them more destabilised, less confident, and more afraid of their own inner world.

 

I'm not going to make you self-important, entitled, or think you're better than someone else because "you've done the work." Ew. Instead, you're going to become the most aligned, unconditionally loving version of yourself. You'll feel inner peace, deep self-respect, and truly be the version of yourself you once dreamed of. 

The ripple effect of this work is a regulated leader, a more attuned mother, a hands-on father, a thriving sex life, better health, more motivation, focused work, more magnetism, and more of YOU! 

 

You become proud of who you are. Not because you're perfect, but because you're finally living in a body that feels like home.

 

If you're ready to work together, explore my offers here. 

 

And if you're not quite sure where to begin?

 

Start with a free masterclass.

Start with my podcast.

Start with my IG posts.

Start with my NYT Bestselling Book, Becoming HER.

But most of all... start. 

Your dream life isn't waiting for perfection. It's waiting for you to become the truest version of you.