The REAL Reasons You Are a Perfectionist

Ohhh, do I have a juicy nugget for YOU!

Ever wonder why you're such a perfectionist? Well, newsflash: perfectionism is actually a trauma response. Yup, that constant drive to be "perfect" stems from the belief that if you’re perfect, you’ll finally get the love and validation you’ve been craving. Sound familiar?

A lot of this comes from childhood experiences, where love and approval might’ve felt conditional—like if you didn’t hit certain marks, you weren’t good enough. And here’s the kicker: perfectionism is subjective. You’ll never actually feel like you’ve reached that "perfect" goal because it's always shifting.

What happens instead? 

You end up procrastinating or straight-up self-sabotaging because the fear of not being perfect stops you from even starting. You freeze. You delay. You hold yourself back because you're too scared of messing up.

So, the first step? Realizing that perfectionism is actually a response to some deeper stuff. Look back at your past experiences—how are they influencing your behavior right now?

The ultimate goal is to create that sense of safety within yourself so you’re not constantly searching for external validation. 

You have to ask yourself: What deeper fears or traumas are you avoiding by clinging to this idea of perfection?

Find that sweet spot of balance. Be proud of your work, but also be okay with those imperfections—because they don’t define your worth.

If you want to dive deeper into this topic and how to start breaking free from perfectionism, check out the juicy podcast episode! Trust me, it’s a game changer.