Why Strong, Successful Women Struggle to Receive Love

I've been doing this work with women for 9 years, and men want one thing: to be respected. They want to feel that they have a purpose.

But if you're leading everything, there is no space for him to lead.

This doesn't mean you have to bake bread and be in your "goddess energy" to be feminine. You need to heal the part of you that thinks softness and letting him lead will get you hurt.

You need to rewire the part of you that thinks asking for help, having support, and not doing it all alone is somehow less than (this doesn't just mean getting help from him, I'm even talking about hiring a housekeeper, for example).

When your nervous system has been in a state of hyper-masculinity, hyper-independence, and disconnection from your feminine nature for so long, it becomes hard to "drop into your feminine."

This is because your nervous system deems what is FAMILIAR AS SAFE.

So if the man who's treating you like a well-respected woman feels weird, boring, or "too good to be true," it's because it doesn't feel familiar—so your body wants you to run away from that and go back to the man who ghosts you.

If you're so used to men asking you what you want to do for the date (vomit), not confirming the date, walking through the door first, forgetting to call you, etc., then when you come across a guy who's actually showing up as a MAN, your nervous system will think that something is wrong, as you're not used to it.

Ladies, let me make this abundantly clear... STOP SETTLING FOR THE BARE MINIMUM. Stop thinking he's AMAZINGGGGG simply for calling you when he said he would.

If you want a great relationship with a masculine man, but don't know what to do with it when he shows up for you like that or when you go out on a date with a great guy, then you need to re-code your nervous system and heal your trauma.

You also need to have more self-respect. Because the fact that you're even engaging in that behaviour (or allowing it if he's your husband or boyfriend) tells me that you either:

• Don't believe you're worth more.

• Are afraid that putting your foot down will make him leave, or you think it's too "masculine" (hint: it's not).

Being in your feminine doesn't mean doing less. It means healing the blueprint that you have to earn love through productivity—that you're more successful/worthy the more you get done in the day.

For him to lead you, there has to be energetic space for him to do so.

This is what "The Man" wants from you:

Vulnerability
Softness
Receptivity
Self-respect
Boundaries
Trust
Respect

Anddddd not to have his balls chopped off.

I know you've always been the woman who's in control and knows how to make things happen for herself. You've built an epic career, you've listened to the books, and you're self-aware. But you're struggling to let him lead, even though you are deeply craving for him to.

It is so possible for you to feel safe, soften into your feminine, and no longer have to ask him to unpack the dishwasher.

It's safe for you to get out of your head and into your body.

It's safe for you to trust the masculine.

You deserve a man who claims you, who leads you, and who truly cherishes you. But first, you have to become the woman whose nervous system feels SAFE receiving that.

My free guide, The L.O.V.E.R. Method™️,  will help you understand exactly why you’re not feeling safe to receive and how to shift out of the energy that’s silently emasculating him—so you can reconnect with your softness, your magnetism, and your power as the lover, not the mother.