You Don’t Need Weekly Date Nights to Have a Polarized Relationship

Friendly reminder: You don't need to go out on fancy weekly dates to create a polarized relationship.

You honestly don't want the polarity in your relationship to be determined by how many fancy dates he takes you on, flowers he buys, or love letters he writes you—because the reality is that when life is a lot (duh, there will be seasons where it is!), those things just aren't always at the top of his (or anyone's) mind.

So you need to know that your relationship will be polarized, sexy, and delicious, even without needing to be flown to Paris. You want to know that you can feel deeply cherished by him, even whilst watching TV in bed and eating sushi takeout, or when you're 3 days postpartum with your engorged tits out and wearing a diaper (speaking from experience lol).

Being claimed when you first start dating someone, or when you're on your literal honeymoon, is entirely different from when you're new parents, "in the trenches," or going through a hard time in life.

But the reality is that you CAN be claimed in every season of life, and you deserve to be.

Plus, we all know we are happier, calmer, and softer women when we're well-pleasured. 😉

Feeling cherished by your man (and gentlemen, making your women feel cherished) is about consistency, presence, and follow-through:

• Him noticing when you're tired and telling you to get into bed.

• Him making a decision simply so you don't have to.

• Him telling you to snuggle the baby to sleep whilst he packs for your trip.

• Him making you a cup of tea without you having to even ask.

If you're craving to feel wanted, lead, and devoured, even in the toughest of seasons, then this is what you've got to do:

1. Expand your understanding of what it looks like to be led by your man or partner. It's not just about what's happening in the bedroom or in your bank account. It's also about him handling the taxes, or putting the rubbish bins at the end of the driveway on the right day without you having to think about it, or heating up the car for you before you leave for work on a cold morning... the list goes on.

2. Notice where you're gripping onto control and not trusting him to make the decision. Maybe you do know better, but there's still a way you can communicate that to him without emasculating him and then still trusting him to take that information you've given, and roll with it.

Most women try to talk their man into leading, but the women who join my long-standing program, Be A Lover, Not A Mother, shift their energy instead. And suddenly, they have flowers brought home for them, baths run, dates planned, and feel deeply cherished.

You cannot force a man into leading you. You have to create the space for him to do so. No matter what season of life the two of you are in.