To All The Women That Want Him To Lead You...

I got you!! 

When you’ve grown up in an environment where your relaxation, emotions, and vulnerability were not safe to be expressed, you learn to not trust those around you. When you feel like no one was caring for you, you learn to care for yourself. When you felt like people let you down, you make sure no one can hurt you.

You become a control freak, not because you want to, but because you have to.

Our number one need as humans, especially children, is survival.

And so when we perceive that we are not safe in a situation and thus need to go into survival mode, we will take control of ourselves or create some kind of trauma response that gives us the illusion of safety.

Of course, for the vast majority of us, this protective mechanism stays with us until we do what’s required to heal and get it out of our trauma cycle.

So, many of you may DEEPLY WANT him to lead you, but it feels SO FKN HARD (like a full body NO) to let go of your control and leadership.

I get it... I’ve been there. And whilst it’s not easy to let go of control, when you address the ROOT ISSUE of the control (the control is just the way it’s being expressed), you’ll actually WANT to let go of it.

All my work is about addressing the root. You can have a million and one SYMPTOMS... but the symptoms aren’t the problem. They’re just the way the root issue is rearing its ugly head.

If you need to heal your control freak issues so that you **CAN** let him lead (ugh yum, it’s truly so fkn good), then Queen Alchemy or 1:1 is for you 🌹🍓

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