Why Masculine Structure (Not Just Feminine Flow) Are the Secret to Thriving as a Mum

Want to know how I manage to have a great Oura ring score while… being a new mum, having broken sleep, breastfeeding, running a company, just got done hosting an event, currently launching HER Year, exercising, cooking healthy meals, and manifesting?

Firstly, it’s not perfect. Some days my sleep score is also 64, and I’ve woken up 13 times throughout the night. But I’m fine on those days because 80% of the time my sleep is good.

The real kicker is that my sleep is better NOW than prior to being a mum. I went back on my Oura ring, and on average, I consistently get more hours of sleep NOW than before.

Okay, but let’s dive into how I’m not just managing it all, but holding it all with ease. Let's talk about how I'm not running around like a headless chicken or in a state of fight-or-flight, but regulated 95% of the time (hello, we’re all human).

The only reason I’m able to get good sleep, work, dry brush, go to the sauna a few times a month, do Pilates regularly, breastfeed, cook healthy meals, and manifest is because of systems and structure. There is nothing “feminine flow” about this, and that's the truth. 

If I waited to be in a certain mood to cook dinner early in the day… I’d be waiting a while. Feminine flow alone doesn’t get you all of this. If you’re in your feminine all the time, trying to manage a load this big, you’ll be in a state of overwhelm and unnecessary chaos.

My 2-hour morning routine is LONG GONE. But I’m still manifesting and ensuring I’m in a high vibration, I’m just going about it differently. Side note, I’m also like, what the f*ck was I doing for 2 hours every morning?! LOL. Cause I’m still feeling great, if not MORE magnetic for my manifestations, and my first 2 hours of the day look veryyyyyyy different.

I'm still caring for myself with saunas, dry body brushing, gua sha in the morning, etc., because I'm deeply committed to myself. Even on the weekends when we don’t have our nanny, I'm still fitting in self-care in different ways because when my cup is full, and I'm feeling good in my body and mind, I can look after Tripp better. It’s my duty as a mother to look after myself so that I can pour into others.

So!! Even if you're not a mum (or not yet) and HER Year is speaking to you, come learn the masculine structure that will uplevel your entire life. And trust me, the village of women inside this experience is truly epic.

AND, if you're a mum or becoming one, read on because this next part was MADE FOR YOU!!

Here's what I also know about my duty as a mother. It's also a matter of asking for support and realizing that maybe the way we’ve been shown motherhood isn’t the only way it has to be.

It's why I created and am so passionate about the MotHERhood upgrade inside of HER Year. Because you need a recalibration into high-level motherhood. You’re not here to be the average mother, so you need to be around other women who are also stepping up to a new way of being that supports your nervous system and feeling safe, not abiding by the norm. It allows you to feel supported, knowing that other women are similar to you and you’re not alone in motherhood.

And lastly, mum or not a mum, the reason I’m not in a constant state of fight-or-flight as I juggle it all is because of the nervous system regulation techniques I give you in HER Year.

When I tell you that this container will drastically transform your life, I mean it. And not just in one area of your life, but in every area of your life: your health, your love life, your friendships, your career, your motherhood, all of it.

I am incredibly proud of this program and the results that have been achieved over the last few years in running it. It started as a four-week program and has turned into a year-long program because it is undeniable that long-term support is where long-term results happen when it comes to your growth.

Motherhood will bring every unhealed wound to the surface—but it also offers you the greatest opportunity to rise into your most embodied self.

In the MotHERhood upgrade inside HER Year, you’ll learn how to:

• Own your identity as a mother and a woman who leads herself.

• Lean into your man for support and navigate polarity and parenting.

• Build systems into your week that allow you to be fully present with your children and in alignment with your version of HER.

You’ll stop feeling like you need to “earn your rest.” You’ll stop feeling guilty for getting help. You’ll finally realise that being a magnetic, regulated, feminine woman is the greatest gift you can give your children.

For less than your oat milk lattes each week, you can be a part of an incredibly high-vibrational motherhood village for an ENTIRE YEAR.

All the details of what is included in this can be found on the website page, and of course, if you have any questions, just email my team at support@monicayateshealth.com!