How to Create Your Dream Life in 2026 (Part 2/2): The Hidden Blocks Holding You Back

In Part 1 of this series, we talked about what to do to create your dream life. Now we’re talking about what’s keeping you stuck—the sneaky, often subconscious things that are quietly sabotaging the whole thing.

(So if you haven’t read Part 1 yet, go read that first because Part 2 builds upon and deepens what I talk about in Part 1! And, as always, if you'd rather listen to the voice note version, here's the podcast episode that accompanies it!) ↓

Let this be your full permission slip to call yourself out (with love), shift your energy, and stop playing small—because we’re not carrying that sh*t any further into 2026. Let’s go.

Block #1: Fear of Judgement (Especially From People Close to You)

For most women, it’s not the fear of trolls or the strangers online that is holding you back. It’s your mum’s offhand comment, your friend’s side-eye, or your cousin’s passive-aggressive remark at Christmas.

If this is you, then here's what you need to know: If you let those people dim your light, you’ll end up resenting yourself, and your dreams will only feel further and further away.

What to do instead?

• Get around people who celebrate your success (even if it’s different from their own).

• Ask yourself, what parts of me am I still afraid to let be seen?

• Notice where you’re judging yourself because that’s where the fear of judgment from others gets its power.

Block #2: Attachment to Your Past Identity

This one is tender, but I’m not going to sugarcoat it. You simply cannot become the next-level version of you while clinging to the version that was struggling, surviving, or shrinking.

If you are clinging onto the past—whether it’s victimhood, whether it’s survival, whether it’s struggle—is that going to get you your future? No.

You don’t have to invalidate what you’ve been through, but you do need to decide if you’re going to stay there.

What to do instead:

• Ask yourself: Have I made struggle part of my identity?

• Replace “I’m a survivor of...” with “I’ve moved through...” or “I overcame...”

• Choose growth over validation. Choose expansion over fitting in.
  

Block #3: People-Pleasing 

This one might feel sneaky. You might even think you’ve “healed” it. But if you’re still focused on making everybody else happy that you’re not making yourself happy, that is 100% holding you back from getting what you want.

People-pleasing is a nervous system survival response that makes you play small, tone yourself down, and say yes when you actually mean no…and it chips away at your self-respect and your dreams over time.

What to do instead:

• Say no without explaining why.

• Practice respecting your own goals like they matter (because hello, they do).

• If you’ve been trying to make someone comfortable by biting your own tongue, let that sh*t go.
  

Block #4: Lack of Boundaries

We covered this in depth in Part 1, so I won’t go into it in too much detail here, but just remember this—the resentment that comes from a lack of boundaries will eat you alive and make you a bitter b*tch.

Oof. The frequency that creates your dream life simply cannot co-exist with bitterness. Set the boundary, and free your energy.

Block #5: Procrastination and Overwhelm

You might think you’re lazy or unmotivated, but you’re not. You’re likely overstimulated by too much scrolling, too much noise, and too many tabs open (literally and metaphorically).

What to do instead:

• Turn off the podcast. Unplug. Be with your thoughts.

• Stop scrolling. Tune out the outside noise.

• Implement masculine structures to simplify your daily routines and free up space in your brain (which I teach in depth inside of HER Year).

• Make space to hear yourself again.
  
  

As for procrastination? Check out this podcast HERE for more on what causes it and what to do about it!

Block #6: Impatience

This one is layered. There’s the good kind of impatience—the kind that drives you to move, take action, and condense time. But there’s also the kind that smothers everything and creates unnecessary pressure on yourself.

You must learn when to be patient in the sense that you don’t actually end up sabotaging something because of your inability to sit in the unknown.

What to do instead: Know when to move. Know when to surrender. And always trust your timing.

Block #7: Believing You Can’t Have Both

This one hits hard, especially for the women who want it all.

More money AND deep polarity in your relationship. Big success AND softness. The dream business AND the dream baby.

You often think that you can’t have both—and you might consciously say you do, but do you really, really believe that?

What to do instead:

• Look at what you’re afraid to want.

• Notice if you’re holding back from your dream life because you’re scared it will cost you something else.

• Surround yourself with expanders—people who embody what they teach and already have what it is that you want.

Lastly, please know that none of these blocks mean you're broken. They make you human.
 

And if you want to step into your dream life instead of just “thinking about it,” you need to get honest about where you’re still clinging, pleasing, hiding, or procrastinating.

You don’t need another journal prompt or a "sign." You need to:

• Set the boundary

• Take the action

• Let go of the old story

• Plug into the right energy
  

Because remember—embodiment is superior to teaching. And your dream life isn’t going to manifest from your vision board alone. Let this be the moment where you stop waiting and start creating.

If you know that you need to be deeply seen so you cannot hide behind your blocks, cracked open, and in a safe and sacred space away from your everyday life to have a massive quantum leap, then get on the waitlist for The Immersion. This transformation won't take 6 months to embody, it'll hit you by the end of the weekend.