Asking for support BEFORE you need it!

Today, I want to discuss something major (and I promise this will apply whether or not you’re a mother or even planning on becoming one) — this is about the vital importance of asking for support.

 

Something a lot of women are sh*t at, quite frankly.

 

Now, as you likely know, this is my first baby… so when I say I have no idea about looking after a child, I mean it. I know my motherly intuition will kick in, I have no doubt about that — but I’ve seen a lot of women struggle during birth, and then that leading to birth trauma, and then going into postpartum, they’re just drowning.

 

So, why put myself through that too if I don't have to?

 

 

Having a baby is a big deal — emotionally, physically, mentally AND spiritually.

Not just for you, but also for your partner. So when I'm thinking about what type of support system I want around this time, I’m not even just thinking about me. I’m also thinking about my husband.

 

How can he be supported? How does me being supported help him?

 

I vowed to make this transition as easy as possible for me. I wanted to set myself up for success ahead of time. I desire to feel as confident as I possibly can going into all this — which is why I've devoted so much TIME, energy, and resources into creating the most epic support team long before I even need them.

 

 

A lot of people say things like: “I want to achieve X goal this year.”

And then they go on their merry way trying to manifest it how they know how.

 

But the truth is… they’re not experts at calling in that goal (otherwise they'd already have it). And then after a year or more of trying, when they’re feeling frustrated and somewhat hopeless, then they invest in help.

 

As a result of having help, they hit their goal within 3 months.

 

But it didn’t really take them 3 months. It took them 5 mental breakdowns, weight gain, emotional distress, a year of trying and failing — plus three months of actual time.

 

 

Whilst yes, ‘we’re all on our own journey and maybe you were meant to struggle,” — I actually don’t believe that fully.

 

The most successful people in the world invest in themselves. They hire the person who’s done what they want to do.

 

So, I’m hiring:

 

Back in the day, we had a village of support. These days, we sadly don’t.

 

(This is a big reason why so many women joined HER Year — because their body is missing the feeling of having that village! We as feminine women thrive within community and support from all sorts of different women in different seasons of life. The wisdom we all hold is monumental, and when we bring that together, our nervous systems truly feel so taken care of.)

 

Here’s another personal example:

Last year, we found a fabulous housekeeper, and her support has been a GAME CHANGER for me. I now don't run out of clean underwear thanks to her staying on top of my washing. I knew we would need this help when our baby came around — so we hired her before we even fell pregnant.

 

 

Maybe it’s not obvious. Maybe it doesn’t look like my version of support — and that’s okay!! e.g. you want to get a pay rise.. It might be that you would benefit from an executive coach. OR… maybe what you need is a housekeeper, bi-weekly massages, and to join HER Year?

 

The answer for how our feminine bodies feel supported isn’t always the obvious thing. Keep that in mind as you reflect on this.

 

This is about listening to your intuition.

Feeling into the level of support that makes you feel like you can exhale.

Because you don’t have to prove you need help to receive it.

You don’t have to wait until you’re crumbling.

 

And you get to say yes before it gets hard.