The Difference Between Feminine & Masculine Investments

In this episode, I dive deep into why your body might actually feel unsafe with having more money. There are so many layers to this, from believing that if you have more than you need, bad things might happen, to witnessing money fights growing up, which could lead to an anxious attachment with money. The trauma surrounding money is real for so many people, even if consciously, you're telling yourself, "But I want more money!"

You might be subconsciously blocking yourself from receiving more wealth, thinking that having more could lead to fights, rejection, or even loss of love. It's essential to ask yourself, why do you not want more money? Because trust me, if you don't feel safe holding it, that money isn't going to stay with you.

A lot of this shows up as chronic overspending. Maybe you get a paycheck, and it's gone the next day. You pay your bills, buy things, and the next thing you know, your bank account looks the same as before. You might even think, "I'm not buying anything extravagant, but why can't I ever hold onto more money?"

It could also mirror your relationship with food. Do you always eat everything on your plate? Do you allow yourself to cook extra and store it for later, or do you feel you have to eat it all in one go because you don't know when there will be more? This is a common trauma response—whether it stems from not having enough food in the house growing up or perhaps from competing with siblings over dinner. The fear of "there might not be enough later" translates into how you handle money.

You might even feel unsafe receiving attention because, as a child, being seen led to bad things happening. If you don't feel safe being seen, this could limit your flow of abundance. You might not feel safe receiving money or being seen as a wealthy person because, at some level, you associate that visibility with danger.

This fear also shows up in business. Do you find yourself desperately trying to sign clients, clinging to every potential lead because of that anxious attachment to money? Remember, money is neutral. The meaning you assign to it is where the story comes from. You're creating the narrative. So instead of just trying to "think positively," challenge yourself to consider how you'd act if you already had tons of money in the bank. How would that version of you make decisions?

This is where the balance between feminine and masculine investments comes in.

Masculine investments are all about logic, ROI, and financial smarts—stocks, savings, and future planning.

Feminine investments, on the other hand, are more intuitive. They don't always make sense on paper, but they're about what feels right, what brings you joy, pleasure, and happiness. It's about treating yourself, indulging in what makes you feel good, and trusting your desire to adorn yourself in beautiful things.

Both are essential, and one isn't better than the other. It's crucial to honor your feminine investments—whether that's buying a beautiful dress, going on a trip, or indulging in something that lights you up. These things fuel your creativity and make you want to make more money because they bring joy into your life.

At the end of the day, it's about making sure both your feminine and masculine sides are nurtured and balanced in how you're spending your hard-earned money. By doing so, you create a healthy, harmonious relationship with money, where you're not only saving for the future but also enjoying the present.

So, what's holding you back from making those feminine investments? Could it be fear, a past story, or a limiting belief? If your worst fear came true, could you survive and bounce back? The answer is likely yes. So go ahead, make that investment—whether it's in yourself, your pleasure, or your future—and trust that you'll be okay.