The first thing to note, is that everything is energy. Just notice how a very white, clean space feels very light and calm, whereas a messy space feels like chaos. There you go – that’s an example of energy. Or have you ever noticed that after seeing a friend, you feel very heavy or very light? That’s because you have ‘caught’ some of their energy and it’s now affecting you.
There are many issues that can contribute to an energy blockage in your body which can result in a lack of a period, a heavy horrible period or a struggle to conceive. Unresolved grief or anger regarding a past experience, childhood trauma, unsettled issues with a parent, friend or past lover, the loss of a loved one, our own expectations or judgement, fears around getting pregnant or having a period (because of the pain it comes with), etc ...
This post is not about any judgement. Don’t judge yourself for having these pasts, just learn from them. We’ve all got our own past stories that we are afraid to tell the world or to release from ourselves. That’s okay, just honour yourself for showing up and reading this post. This post is about investigation, another idea, something new that you maybe haven’t tried.
You can’t clear your energy if you don’t know it’s there. You must be able to recognise that something is holding you back or affecting you. So sit with yourself for a minute. Close your eyes, ground your bum bones into the chair and your feet on the floor. Breath innnnnnn and outtttt. Do it now.....
What do you notice? Can you think of things that are holding you back or affecting your energy?
You just grounded yourself. Grounding is important for fertility because when the body feels physically save (grounding helps the body achieve this), it allows the body to relax. It brings awareness into the body as well which is an essential aspect of the fertility journey (remember fertility is a sign of full health).
The first Chakra which is located at the base of your spine, has to do with grounding and it’s connection to the earth. It is about safety, security, home and finances. Basically – survival. It motivates you to take care of yourself....most of which women do NOT do.
The energy of fear can be held in this space and if you don’t feel safe in your body, there is no way that your body is going to allow you to even have the chance of falling pregnant. (Hence no period or painful periods that place more pain and fear in your mind so you struggle to conceive because pain and fear blocks the energy of conception).
An interesting thought about this first chakra is that an imbalance can manifest on a physical level as immune system issues and endometriosis has been linked to a compromised immune system (1).
The second chakra, located just below the navel, is about emotions, sexuality and desire. All of which I’m pretty sure every woman struggles with. Having balance in the second chakra is vital for a healthy relationship with fertility and your cycle. It is also all about the element of water....watery thinks like yin, menstruation and orgasm (both of which are barely talked about openly and without some fear). Movement is important for the workings of this charka and so dancing and moving your hips can help open this space. (Check out my playlists for you to move to).
This chakra also has a lot to do with feminine energy, yin and water like processes. However most of us either 1) don’t know how the f to connect with our feminine or 2) are afraid to do so because people won’t take up seriously or shit won’t get done....am I right?
We don’t want to let go, most of us (including me) want to control and plan ahead. This is doing the exact opposite of what we need for the balance of this chakra. Try to relax your resistance. Let your hips go, let your reproductive organs relax and soften. Just imagine that. Relaxing your uterus, womb, ovaries, vagina. See how you soften? That’s what we gotta do more of (I’m literally doing this as I write, so please do this as you read).
If you haven’t just done that, stop, and do it for 5 seconds.
Being in nature can also help us to connect with the feminine side of ourselves and open up blockages or resistance in this chakra.
Just like trauma can have an effect on the energy we hold, so can past lovers. When you are with someone, you share their energy and if you don’t release theirs’s, you can hold onto it for a long time. Additionally, many of us (myself included when I first started having my period before I went on the pill), are not in touch with our body and we are always frustrated with it. We don’t look how we want, we get sick, we can’t have an orgasm, we can’t can’t cant’!!! All of this crap can also hinder fertility and our ability to have an enjoyable cycle. If you don’t like being a female cause you hate your fucking period, then this will also affect your cycle.
This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to understanding how your energy and emotions affect your body. The power of your thoughts is absolutely astounding and studies have proven the power of your mind to manifest in your physical body (2).
If you are struggling with past experiences or letting go of energy and want some techniques and support, please reach out to me for some life coaching.
As a life coach and a chick-obsessed-about-periods, I’m able to combine the two to help you achieve the goals you are after and stop having horrible periods. If you’ve tried everything nutrition and lifestyle-related, maybe you’ve got an energy blockage? As women, we carry a lot of other people’s energy and it’s so important to clear this out. Please feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
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